Frequently Asked Questions

Rope Guidance Questions

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You do not need to have any prior experience in ropes/shibari/BDSM​

 

Rope is for every body—a space to surrender, explore, and be held just as you are. There’s no skill or experience needed, only a willingness to listen to your body and trust the journey. Whether it’s your first time or a deepening of your practice, I will create a session that honors your comfort, desires, and boundaries. Through a gentle intake process, we’ll explore your intentions, safety, and the energy you wish to bring into this experience, allowing the rope to become a sacred extension of your connection to self.

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What does kinbaku/shibari/ropes feel like in a physical sense?

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Rope offers a vast spectrum of sensations, shifting with intention, technique, and even the rhythm of your own body on any given day. Some describe it as sinking into an intense, grounding massage—others feel the contrast between softness and intensity, gentleness and power. It is a sacred space to explore the beautiful contradictions within you, where surrender and control, tension and release, all intertwine in harmony.

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The sensation of suspension can be physically intense. There may be moments of compression in the chest or a slow sinking pain as your body sinks into the ropes. 

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As a rope bottom themselves, Sage is able to support you through additional rope bottoming techniques and body management should you need it. 

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How do I keep myself safe?

Rope is a powerful practice, but it is not without risk. Before we tie, we’ll have an open conversation about safety, including nerve awareness, risk levels, and what to be mindful of during our session. I recommend watching this video series and reading The Rope Bottoms Guide by Clover and Basics for Bottoms. Both of these resources will help you develop a foundational understanding of rope.

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Even with the utmost care and experience, all rope work—like any BDSM scene—carries inherent risks. Different ties come with varying levels of intensity, and it is always okay to choose what feels safest for you.

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By stepping into this space, you are engaging in RACK—Risk Aware Consensual Kink. This means embracing informed choice, open communication, and personal responsibility. No one can promise a risk-free experience, but through trust, awareness, and clear dialogue, we create a space where safety and exploration can coexist.​​

Do you accept people with trauma?

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While practitioners at DTF hold a trauma-informed lens, our offerings are not a substitute for therapy or medical care. Our work bridges the mind and body, often evoking deep somatic and transformational experiences, but we do not diagnose or treat trauma or mental health conditions. We are trained in Mental Health First Aid and other trauma-informed practices to support a safe and grounded space, yet our focus is on empowerment, embodiment, and exploration—not trauma processing. ​

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Does the session have to be erotic in nature?

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While rope naturally carries an intimate energy due to physical closeness and the way it interacts with the body, it does not have to be erotic. Containers are created for the tying experience desired. There is possibility for holding space for connection, exploration, and embodiment without erotic intention.

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That said, if you’re seeking a session that includes elements of eroticism, we can discuss ways to incorporate that within my personal boundaries and safety. All aspects of the session are discussed and agreed upon beforehand, and you always have the right to revoke consent at any time if something no longer feels right. Your safety, comfort, and autonomy are my highest priority.​

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Can I bring someone with me to watch?

Your comfort and safety are paramount. If bringing someone with you would ease your nervous system and bring you peace, please do so. 

 

How can I vet you?

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​I hold my work with deep transparency, and you’re warmly invited to reach out to anyone you’ve seen me work with. I’m happy to offer a few references if that feels helpful, but I also encourage you to follow your own intuition and ask around. ​

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What about aftercare?​

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I always hold space for aftercare as an important part of our work together. You’ll find a space to share your needs around this in the intake form, and I’ll do my best to honor them with care and clarity. If there’s something you ask for that I’m not able to offer, I’ll let you know gently and we’ll co-create a nourishing alternative that feels aligned.

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Cuddle Party Questions

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What should I wear to the workshop?

Loungewear, sweatpants, pajamas, yoga pants, and other comfortable clothing are all great. Please wear a minimum of shorts and a tank top.

What if I become aroused during the workshop?

This is a platonic, non-sexual space but arousal is a natural bodily response that sometimes happens. We ask that participants not pursue a state of arousal or act upon it. If your own state of arousal becomes distracting or uncomfortable for you or another participant, you can always take a break and rejoin the group at a later time.

What if I don't want to cuddle with someone or they don't want to cuddle with me?

"No" is a perfectly acceptable answer within the cuddle space, no questions asked. Every participant is within their right to turn down a cuddle request and we encourage participants to receive a "no" as a gift and move on respectfully.

Is this a singles event?

This workshop is for everyone. It is a platonic space focused on connection, relaxation, and healing. You are welcome to attend alone or with a friend(s) or partner(s).